Кетлин Фладгер живее во Ванкувер, Канада, каде употребата на медицинска марихуана е легална.
Сепак, имајќи предвид дека е мајка на две деца, таа честопати се соочува со критика на своја сметка затоа што отворено признава дека пуши трева.
„Да, пушев пред да се разбудат моите деца. Не, тоа не ме прави лош родител. Се сеќавам на првиот пат кога ја носев маицата на која пишуваше ‘Прво пушам трева, а потоа ги завршувам работите ” бев во шопинг центар, опкружена со жени во куси маици со натписи „Мајка која пие вино“. Но луѓето најмногу гледаа во мене, најверојатно затоа што покрај мене имаше две деца.“
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Yes, I’m a mom of two. Yes, I have smoked before when my kids are awake. No, that doesn’t make me a bad parent. I remember the first time I wore this sweater out in public. I was at the mall, surrounded by tank tops that said “I’m a wine mom” and “nothing gets done until my wine glass is empty”. But my sweater, was definitely the one of the most looked at things, probably because I had my two young kids with me. I had one cashier say to me “do you think it’s safe to get high with your kids?” It took me by surprise. It made me wonder. Why every time someone thinks of weed, they must be getting high and not being able to function. When I smoke while my kids are up, which is rare, but it has happened, it is to calm myself. Not to get high, or to lay on the couch all day. Marijuana has so many other benefits besides the ones you see in the movies. It has helped me immensely with being a more patient mother, it has helped me gain the weight I needed to, and it has helped my insomniac self, get some well needed sleep at night. It’s really interesting when I wear the wine mom tank top I do have out, I get high fives from other moms, I get laughs, I get told “awesome shirt, relatable.” But when I wear this one, it’s a whole different story. Smoking while your kids are awake doesn’t make you a bad parent. Some people don’t smoke just to get high. You don’t have to smoke a ton every time. It doesn’t make you lay on the couch all day, and ignore you kids. So, yeah, I’m a mom of two, and I have smoked while my kids are awake, and you know what? Those are the most relaxed, stress free days my kids and I have. Sincerely, a pretty kick ass mom who smokes a lot of weed.
A post shared by Caitlin Fladager (@caitlinfladager) on Apr 29, 2020 at 3:51pm PDT
„Една продавачка дури и ме праша дали мислам дека е безбедно да се надувам додека сум со своите деца “ напиша на Инстаграм каде објави и фотографија од маицата со која предизвика лавина од реакции во јавноста.
Таа вели дека не и е јасно зошто луѓето заклучуваат дека некој што користи марихуана не може да функционира нормално.
„Го правам тоа за да се смирам. Не да се надувам или да лежем на каучот цел ден“, додава таа.
Кејтлин тврди дека е повеќе од сигурна марихуаната е причината поради која таа е и подобра мајка.
„Имам повеќе трпеливост. Таа ми помогна да се поправам и да добијам здрава телесна тежина и повеќе не се борам со несоницата“, ги набројува придобивките што ги забележала.
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Anger, being tired all of the time, not wanting to leave bed, not finding interest in things you once did. These are some of the common behaviours of someone with depression. But, one very important one is never listed, and isn’t often talked about. That’s drinking. I went through a very hard mental time last year, and I had been using drinking alcohol to cope with it. I thought it made me feel better. Until, I did something’s when I was drunk that I couldn’t take back. I would say horrible things to people, I would yell, I ended up in the back of a police car on the way to the hospital because I was saying I wanted to end my life. I ignored it all. “Oh, that’s just normal drunk girl behaviour” I would say to myself. It’s not. It’s not normal. Drinking will only make it worse. It’s so easy to brush off your drinking as a “nightly getaway” or a break you deserve. But if you are struggling with depression and/or anxiety, it is one of the worst things you can do. Alcohol may feel like it’s helping you in the moment, but it really just brings those dark thoughts out even more, and makes them worse. It all started going up for me, when I put the glass down. Also, let this be a reminder. Check in on your friends who are drinking a lot, and are always the “life of the party”. They may be dealing with something much more serious than you realize.
A post shared by Caitlin Fladager (@caitlinfladager) on Feb 7, 2020 at 3:51pm PST
Нејзиното мислење е дека не постои разлика помеѓу мајките кои пијат вино и оние кои користат марихуана.
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“I should feel better by now. It’s been a year” is something I have said to myself quite often. When my depression got really bad, I was told all of the same things. “Give it time. Time heals all.” “Last year I was where you are, now I’m so much happier” It gave me the impression that I needed to be completely “better” by a certain time. It made me feel like I should be farther into my healing. One year ago, I started medication for anxiety and depression. Today, one year later, I am back on them. This made me very upset at first. I was going backwards instead of forwards. This way of thinking made me hide my thoughts and feelings, in fear of hearing those words. “But I thought you were doing so much better?” I never knew what to say to that. I was doing better, but now I’m not. I held in my tears for awhile. In fear of letting those down who thought i was doing so well now. It was when I finally let out my tears one day, that made me realize, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to think you’re getting better, and then suddenly realize you’re not. Depression has no schedule. It doesn’t care how long you’ve been working on yourself. It just shows up. Invite your depression to the table. Talk about it. Realize that it may come and go, and that’s okay. Ask for help, more than once. Because you will need to. Depression has no end date. It’s just you, trying your best to survive. And just so you know, that is enough.
A post shared by Caitlin Fladager (@caitlinfladager) on Jan 11, 2020 at 5:23pm PST
„Не ги игнорирам децата поради тоа. Да, имам две деца и знаете што? Кога пушам, јас сум најопуштена и воопшто не сум под стрес затоа што сум со моите деца“, заклучи таа.
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I love my kids, but I hate being a mom sometimes. I miss the life before them some day’s, and that’s okay. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids. So much. But some days, I honestly hate motherhood. I miss the days when all I had to worry about was getting myself ready. I miss the days when I wasn’t responsible for keeping two other human beings alive. Happy. Fed. Clothed. Bathed. Being a mother in this day and age, is also almost impossible. It’s impossible to be seen as a good mom. No matter what you do. Co-sleep? “Danger to your kids. You could suffocate them” Don’t co – sleep? “You’re missing out on vital connections with your child!” Bottle feed? “How could you not try to breastfeed? It’s the best for baby.” Breastfed? “Okay that’s great, but keep it covered up at all times.” The list goes on and on. There have been many days when I have questioned if I was meant to be a mother. Why aren’t I more patient? Why don’t I love motherhood all the time? Why can it be so god damn isolating? Why is no one else talking about this? Is it just me with these thoughts? Am I even allowed to feel like this? The list goes on and on. It seems like you can’t even bring up the downsides of motherhood without someone saying “don’t complain. You will miss these times one day.” And while sure, that may be true, that doesn’t change the truth. I hate motherhood sometimes. Motherhood isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. Yes, it’s an unconditional love that you have never felt before, and I feel incredibly blessed to have this love with my children, but it’s also a battle to remember who you are as a person. That a mother is not all you are. Being a mom is a wonderful thing, with so many learning curves. But it’s also the hardest thing I’ve ever done. You can love your kids, but hate being a mom sometimes.
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Ова не е прв пат таа да излезе во јавноста и да застане во одбрана на марихуаната, а во една прилика, таа призна дека била разбеснета затоа што нејзините деца јаделе Мекдоналдс и гледаат на Јутјуб.
